Internet Dating Then (2004) and Now (2024) The fundamental question remains—do you want to know the truth, or do you want to pretend that life is as you would like it to be? Read more
More 81 on Match.com I imagine this man is only one-tenth as callous in person as he is online. Read more
Eighty-One and on Match.com I’ll leave it to readers to react to this post in their own ways. Read more
MAY-DECEMBER (lose the Cougar) In 2003, the very beginning of online dating, I created my profile as a wild experiment. I posted an up-to-date photo and my true age, 60. Most of the men who contacted me spoke in tongues about what they wanted, but Ken, a 37-year-old policeman was clear. He wanted a “friend with benefits” I askedContinue reading “MAY-DECEMBER (lose the Cougar)” Read more
Fiction and Non-fiction: Spinning Facts Into Gold When I began writing my first memoir I was under the impression that other people would find my story spellbinding—woman begins dating again after two divorces, discovers that dating at 60 is not like dating at 18. I was wrong. My first critics, though kind, were bored. Elmore Leonard’s writing advice, “Just cut out theContinue reading “Fiction and Non-fiction: Spinning Facts Into Gold” Read more
Blue Angels: Times When I Needed a Policeman Once, I misread a sign directing cars around a construction site and found myself driving against an empty oncoming traffic lane, the only one available to me, at least as I had interpreted the sign. When I saw the flashing red light of a police car behind me, I realized I might have made aContinue reading “Blue Angels: Times When I Needed a Policeman” Read more
Managing Grief and Loss Over the Holidays Ways to handle holiday grief: avoid anticipatory grief, serve others, embrace a larger context, make it a time of memorial and mourning. Read more