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  • Recent failures

    Recent failures

    I’ve had a few recent failures. They’ve left a sour taste. Here’s one. Nick’s profile showed a handsome, white-haired, fit man with an engaging smile. He was a writer/teacher, like me (a double-edged sword), and stated that he wanted a woman who was not bitter or angry, which implied… Read More
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  • Dominant submission/Submissive dominance

    Dominant submission/Submissive dominance

    My friend Howard likes to be tied up. Or down. He explained, “I spend my days telling people what to do, and when I have sex, I don’t want to have to make any choices.” We were fond of each other, respected each other, but were ill-matched for romance. I… Read More
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  • Conservative values

    Conservative values

    “I have conservative values,” said M’s profile. What does that mean? I begin by thinking this person doesn’t like gay people, single mothers, and people on welfare, tries to limit his sex life, and is a Republican. I asked M. what he meant by that, and he answered that he… Read More
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  • Doing Nothing

    Doing Nothing

    I spent New Year’s Eve sitting cozily in bed reading a book, Saving Fish From Drowning, by Amy Tan. It was lovely. New Year’s Day I went to a Danish friend’s house to join her family for a Danish smorgasbord. That was lovely too. A year ago I would have… Read More
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  • Every woman's dream man.

    Every woman's dream man.

    Women dream of men like Bill.  He is tall, thin, good looking, competent and capable (and thoroughly solvent).  He can dance.  Strength, courage, decisiveness, discretion, insight, generosity, tolerance, loyalty, optimism, appreciation and understanding of others, discipline, manliness, love of sex.  He has a slight New York accent, a degree from… Read More
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  • The harder they fall….

    The harder they fall….

    Celibacy corrupts. A man contacted me yesterday. He knew how to spell, which is alway a surprise on the internet, and was eloquent and amusing, cultured and clear. We wrote of our families, our careers, our travels, in a literate way. I was interested. I spent too much of… Read More
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  • Bob Dylan

    Bob Dylan

    I’m breathless from the Bob Dylan concert. He is a superb musician, with a keen eye for good side men. The words were mostly incomprehensible but it didn’t matter. The kids, teenagers and college kids, who were there mostly sat in their seats like stones. Their parents were… Read More
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  • Eulogy for Louis

    Eulogy for Louis

    I have finished two bottles of Tsingtao beer, turned on a CD of Stephan Grapelli and George Shearing, and danced around the living room with the lights out so people passing on the street couldn’t see me. I am dancing, mourning, over my beloved friend Louis, who died of… Read More
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  • Sex tomorrow  morning

    Sex tomorrow morning

    My profile has been on yahoo.com for I don’t know how long.  It’s free so what the hell.  Every year or so I update it.  Three weeks ago I talked on the phone with someone who had found me on yahoo.  He is a real estate developer and has… Read More
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