• What to do with lingerie?

    What to do with lingerie?

    “I’m forty years old, and I never knew what to do with this stuff,” said Stephie after trying on a teddy and a long slip that had been part of my mother’s trousseau. My mother was married in the early 1930’s, and her family was wealthy enough to provide her… Read More
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  • Personal time

    Personal time

    Giving up personal time is, for me, the worst part of living with someone. Every movement is touched by concerns about him — what would he like, what does he need, what would he enjoy? Including thoughts of the other in everything you do is what love is… Read More
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  • The Book Blog

    The Book Blog

    KISS AND RUN: The Single, Picky, and Indecisive Girl’s Guide to Overcoming Her Fear of Commitment. By Elina Furman What a good book! She’s thought of everything, and mentioned everything (including sitting home alone with your Rabbit), zeroed in on all our excuses, uncovered our stupid assumptions, and… Read More
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  • Thou shalt not steal

    Thou shalt not steal

    A pair of stretchy black gloves with fake leopard skin fluff at the wrist lay on a seat on my way to the door as the train bucked a bit, screeched a bit, pulling into the last station on the line.  I was the only person in the car.  I… Read More
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  • Born a horse

    Born a horse

    I was born in the Year of the Horse.  A little wild.  Tameable only by a tough, experienced cowboy.  Curious, roaming.  I like the wind in my hair.  Horses are dumb, and I won’t claim that, but I’ll claim all the rest.  I’m a horse with a human brain. Read More
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  • My book blog

    My book blog

    An intelligent, deep, experienced, and articulate author can take us outside of ourselves, and give us context.  More and more, it is only poets who can reach deep enough to pull me out of my self. Patrick Lane is a Canadian poet and writer.  What the Stones Remember: A… Read More
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  • Teddy Bears and Cossacks

    Teddy Bears and Cossacks

    “Every woman needs a teddy bear and a Cossack.”  A 70 year old old Danish woman friend quoted an even older Danish woman when I gave her the following riddle to solve. Both men are your age, mid-60’s. One man is always thinking of ways to please you. … Read More
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  • Love and The Plague

    Love and The Plague

    On Friday, I got a phone call from someone who said he was my son, though the voice was sepulchral, and barely audible.  He was sick.  “I’ll be up this afternoon,” I instantly said.  He and his wife are house parents at a sorority at Cornell.  Forty-six of the… Read More
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  • Recent failures

    Recent failures

    I’ve had a few recent failures. They’ve left a sour taste. Here’s one. Nick’s profile showed a handsome, white-haired, fit man with an engaging smile. He was a writer/teacher, like me (a double-edged sword), and stated that he wanted a woman who was not bitter or angry, which implied… Read More
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