More 81 on Match.com I imagine this man is only one-tenth as callous in person as he is online. Read more
Eighty-One and on Match.com I’ll leave it to readers to react to this post in their own ways. Read more
MAY-DECEMBER (lose the Cougar) In 2003, the very beginning of online dating, I created my profile as a wild experiment. I posted an up-to-date photo and my true age, 60. Most of the men who contacted me spoke in tongues about what they wanted, but Ken, a 37-year-old policeman was clear. He wanted a “friend with benefits” I askedContinue reading “MAY-DECEMBER (lose the Cougar)” Read more
Fiction and Non-fiction: Spinning Facts Into Gold When I began writing my first memoir I was under the impression that other people would find my story spellbinding—woman begins dating again after two divorces, discovers that dating at 60 is not like dating at 18. I was wrong. My first critics, though kind, were bored. Elmore Leonard’s writing advice, “Just cut out theContinue reading “Fiction and Non-fiction: Spinning Facts Into Gold” Read more
Blue Angels: Times When I Needed a Policeman Once, I misread a sign directing cars around a construction site and found myself driving against an empty oncoming traffic lane, the only one available to me, at least as I had interpreted the sign. When I saw the flashing red light of a police car behind me, I realized I might have made aContinue reading “Blue Angels: Times When I Needed a Policeman” Read more
Managing Grief and Loss Over the Holidays Ways to handle holiday grief: avoid anticipatory grief, serve others, embrace a larger context, make it a time of memorial and mourning. Read more
Vladimir Nabokov’s PNIN On vacation, I always try to fill a hole in my literary knowledge by bringing along a book I aspired to read. This time it was Nabokov and Alice and Wonderland. The only Nabokov I had was a yellowed, or rather browned, version of a book I’d never heard of, Pnin, 1957 edition. The coverContinue reading “Vladimir Nabokov’s PNIN” Read more