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  • HOW TO DECIDE WHO PAYS ON AN ONLINE DATE.

    HOW TO DECIDE WHO PAYS ON AN ONLINE DATE.

    When I was dating online, when every first date was a blind date, nothing confused the feminist in me more than the moment when the bill came. Was the man responsible for the bill by default? If a man considered a woman equally responsible for the bill, did that suggest… Read More
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  • BE A BETTER COOK — LEARN FROM RESTAURANTS

    BE A BETTER COOK — LEARN FROM RESTAURANTS

    My mother was a riot in the kitchen. She’d look at a recipe (usually in the New York Times Food section) and say, “I can’t make this tonight because I don’t have any parsley.” “Mom,” I remonstrated, “you don’t need parsley. You can use cilantro or just omit it.” But… Read More
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  • WHAT MAKES A GREAT DATING PROFILE?

    WHAT MAKES A GREAT DATING PROFILE?

    The answer is simple:  the truth. Many people have a cynical relationship with online dating and discovering Little White Lies in your introduction is a bad start to a good relationship. Writers are told again and again, “show, don’t tell,” and that applies to public profiles as well as… Read More
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  • TOO BUSY FOR DATING?

    TOO BUSY FOR DATING?

    In Beloved, Toni Morrison articulated my condition before I started to date again: …way past the Change of Life, desire in them had suddenly become enormous, greedy, more savage than when they were fifteen, and…it embarrassed them and made them sad; secretly they longed to die—to be quit of… Read More
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  • Scenes from France

    Scenes from France

        Living in France was lovely, at least for ten days. I spoke French, ate and shopped French, and drove French. We ate foie gras, elaborate desserts, fried foods, butter, fragrant cheese; for breakfast we had croissants, and the occasional pastry. And we each lost two pounds. Terry says,… Read More
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  • Beyond Grammar: Pesky pronouns – they

    Beyond Grammar: Pesky pronouns – they

    A man I know has his knickers in a twist over pronouns. He is concerned that people will be fined for using the wrong pronoun, and his nephew goes so far as to say that “political correctness,” as exemplified in a discussion about pronouns, is a “cancer on society.” It’s… Read More
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