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MAY-DECEMBER (lose the Cougar)

In 2003, the very beginning of online dating, I created my profile as a wild experiment. I posted an up-to-date photo and my true age, 60. Most of the men who contacted me spoke in tongues about what they wanted, but Ken, a 37-year-old policeman was clear. He wanted a “friend with benefits” I askedContinue reading “MAY-DECEMBER (lose the Cougar)”

THE BENEFIT OF LIVING WITH A GROWN-UP

My husband Terry takes good care of me. I got my first chance to appreciate how precious that was a year into our marriage when I was on crutches after breaking a bone in my foot. I could I relax. I didn’t have to get back on my feet until I was ready. I wasContinue reading “THE BENEFIT OF LIVING WITH A GROWN-UP”

HOW TO DECIDE WHO PAYS ON AN ONLINE DATE.

When I was dating online, when every first date was a blind date, nothing confused the feminist in me more than the moment when the bill came. Was the man responsible for the bill by default? If a man considered a woman equally responsible for the bill, did that suggest he considered her his equalContinue reading “HOW TO DECIDE WHO PAYS ON AN ONLINE DATE.”

WHAT MAKES A GREAT DATING PROFILE?

The answer is simple:  the truth. Many people have a cynical relationship with online dating and discovering Little White Lies in your introduction is a bad start to a good relationship. Writers are told again and again, “show, don’t tell,” and that applies to public profiles as well as other kinds of writing. A photoContinue reading “WHAT MAKES A GREAT DATING PROFILE?”

TOO BUSY FOR DATING?

In Beloved, Toni Morrison articulated my condition before I started to date again: …way past the Change of Life, desire in them had suddenly become enormous, greedy, more savage than when they were fifteen, and…it embarrassed them and made them sad; secretly they longed to die—to be quit of it… I didn’t “long to die,”Continue reading “TOO BUSY FOR DATING?”

Lament of a Modern American Woman – please join the choir

Today, American men are sitting in the waiting room while the women give birth to a new nation.